When a relationship severs, it tears the fabric of the soul and leaves a deep wound. Here’s how the Bible can help you grow stronger from a broken spirit and how God can help you move on with purpose.
The theology of relationships
When God created Adam and Eve, He established the first human relationship and the first complete representation of His image on earth. He blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and increase in number” (Gen. 1:28 NIV). This makes a relationship a unique but highly sensitive union, one that serves to reflect God’s image.
This liberty to be with someone else, however, requires great wisdom. Paradoxically, although your heart is a good thing worth guarding, it is also “deceitful above all things and beyond cure” (Jer. 17:9 NIV). Thus, when you start dating, you’re not just dating. You’re protecting that with which you use to believe in God for salvation (Rom. 10:9).
Moving passed the past
God is a God of healing. This is a fact written throughout the whole story of Scripture. He understands the hurt of a fractured heart, because He lived through it on the cross. This makes His love personal and empathetic, an unconditional love that gets in the trenches with you.
When your relationship ends, pray for healing. You can take your requests to God, because He loves you and wants a relationship with you. The only way for a heart to heal is to lay it before the Healer who fashioned your heart in the womb (Jer. 1:5), because He’s willing and able to mend it.
You can only move forward when you find rest in God. You can search for rest in inspirational quotes, books, or movies, but those are momentary. Rest in God, however, rests your soul, that deeper ache that nothing else can soothe.
Verses about moving on
The Bible provides many examples of what to do in this time of heartache and how God can restore what you lost. Here are some timeless ones to help you heal:
- “Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead” (Phil. 3:13 NIV).
- “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 3:14 NIV).
- “Yet the righteous holds to his way, and he who has clean hands grows stronger and stronger” (Job 17:9 NIV).
Moving on with purpose
Those verses are great examples for many reasons. Perhaps the greatest reason is the common theme of growth. But notice that you don’t move on for the sake of moving on. Instead, these examples reflect movement with purpose. In fact, the word “growth” implies a sort of progress, improvement, or direction.
So remember during this time that your pain isn’t meaningless. The Devil would love for you to sink into depression, and blame God for what happened. Instead of falling into this trap, use your heartache to bring you closer to God. Use it to open the discussion with Him, because it’s a discussion He wants more than anything to have. He has promises for healing, and only in God is complete healing possible.
In this time of recovery, it’s also important not to let your breakup affect how you see yourself. It’s okay to feel bad about what happened, but don’t let it define you. Don’t devalue yourself because of it. You are a child of God, His most beautiful creation. As you move on with purpose, move on with God by your side to the place where He wants you to be, a place where your heart is full of peace and joy.
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